November 10, 2003
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I watched Dr. Phil today because it touched on a subject that's important to me (and my best friend, Lauren). It was Stay-At-Home Moms Vs. Working Moms. I can see both sides of this arguement. Lauren is a stay at home mom. She's thrilled....this is what she's always wanted. I'm happy for her. She feel fulfilled, and that's all I'd ever want for her. I, personally, am very career driven. I just want to work & do my work well. But, if I was ever to become a mother (either naturally or by adoption), I wouldn't want day care or some "stranger" raising my child(ren). If I was ever in that predicament, I wouldn't go back to work until my child(ren) was/were in school & I could work during school hours. Not only do I want to be successful in my career, but I also feel it's unfair to put all the expectation on the man to provide for EVERYONE. That's a huge burden & you can't expect or demand that from anyone. It's just not right. If you can afford to & you WANT to stay home, then stay home! Kudos to you for being able to do that. But don't judge a woman who has to work in order to provide the best for her children. By the same token, being a stay at home mom is EXTREMELY difficult work & working mothers need to realize that they're not sitting at home eating bon-bons all day. It's no one's place to judge another's deciosion. There are many factors that go into a decision like that & it's important to understand & respect that.
The most important thing, no matter what your decision is, is to be an active parent. Take an active role in your child's life. Love & support them in all that they do. Do things with them, take them places. Learn with them. It's so important that children have a warm, loving, stable, comforting environment. It's not about the material things you give them, but the love, support & nurturing you provide. All of that, including an education in responsibility, morals, independence, etc. are what are going to carry that child far. Those are the tools he or she will use in the real world. Spoiling them does not equal loving them. Give them what they need, help them to learn & grow on their own & watch them bloom.
I don't think this is a debate that can or will be resolved. So long as the children don't suffer, either choice is a good choice.
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This just reminds me of our conversation...having sex is a big deal for a number of reasons: The act should be spiritual and a gift. BOTH people should understand the economic, mental, and other responsiblities with it (assuming "she" gets pregnant).
Parents today do not...not cannot...do their jobs as parents. It's all well and good to find a well-paying job in order to financially support your sig. other and children. But your family also needs EMOTIONAL (and educational) support.
I am a well-adjusted young man...shut up, Donna...because my parents took the time to raise me.
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that is for mikie.
I totally agree though. My mom worked and raised us.
Did a nice job if i say so myself.
In my heart I really desire to be a great mother who is really into my children. I also want a career.
Hey if mama could do it, so can daughter.
Muah:lip_kiss:
Donna
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