Month: January 2004

  • I got bitten at work today.  By a large dog.  My hand hurts like hell.  I have to go to the hospital after I finish eating dinner.  Argh!  It was my fault, but it means it’s gonna be a late night, and it’s snowing, and I’m supposed to work 3 full days starting tomorrow.  Oh well.  In lieu of a real entry (since I can’t really type), here are some test results for me from e-mode about love & romance.  Enjoy  :)  


    LOVE & ROMANCE:


    You just love to love, don’t you? We can tell that you’re a die-hard romantic who appreciates the deep sentiment that loving, meaningful words and actions bring to life. Love and romance go hand-in-hand for you, so you adore pouring on the terms of endearment, the hopeful promises, and the doting acts you think your lover deserves. Whether you’re in an idealistic and caring mood or being sweet, playful, and impulsive, you’re a giving partner who’s eager to express how excited you are about your relationship. For you, love is all about sharing your feelings and making your significant other feel cherished. After all, the more often you reassure him/her of the strength of your emotions, the better, right? And you love tapping your creative side to express how much he/she means to you and how important you think his needs are. Congratulations — you really know how to celebrate your love.                        ********************************************************************


    Is it that surprising your candy heart implores you to “Say Yes”? Well it shouldn’t if it’s just mimicking what your true heart wants to say. Whether you’re with your soul mate or still trying to find them, you’re beyond flitting from date to date. You’re ready for it all, the commitment of a lifetime, the white picket fence and the matching “his” and “hers” slippers. Well, maybe not the slippers. But surprise you with a getaway trip to Paris, Ireland, the Southwest, and your partner can lock you in for good. And if you’re still looking, remember this: The best ones are always in the least likely places.  Watch out, the chemistry between you two might start a chain reaction that could result in a far more serious question asked of you. But you know what to say…
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    Whew, is it warm in here or is that just you? When it comes to kissing, you get your drive from the lure of romance. For you, it’s more than a meeting of the lips. You appreciate kissing for the rush and for what it symbolizes. Long-stemmed roses, candlelight dinners, and weekend retreats to bed and breakfasts. Sound about your speed?
    You’re a kissing partner who can go beyond the sweet surrender of locking lips to discuss the meaning of relationships. To really express yourself, you’re probably one who’s concerned with setting the proper mood. You might light a fire or take your date to a beautiful lookout before cuddling and kissing. You probably like to make a lot of eye contact, gently hug and touch your date, and talk tenderly about your feelings.
    While your intensions are pure, your intensity might sometimes be a little overwhelming. Don’t forget that being playful can also be a sign of affection, and remember, sometimes a kiss is just a kiss.

  • Hmmmm…Anything to write about today?  I don’t know.  Work was very busy, had some interesting surgeries.  I got out late, but late is good.  Overtime is NOT a bad thing  :)   Getting various feedback as to which surgeon I should use for Akh’s knees.  We’re still doing the bloods & exam tomorrow & I’m gonna get estimates & it take it from there.  I spoke to Dr. Larkin quite a bit today about the vet school she went to.  In reality, it’s probably the only vet school I can get into.  I have to see.  I’ve been meaning to check out vet schools in “Deer’s” state, but my GPA sucked, so I don’t think I can get in.  No harm in trying, though.  So, I’ll look that up along with the Reiki later tonight.


    I do love those self-discovery tests  :)   Cheesy & self-centered, I know  :)   I plan on putting some of those results into my memoirs.  Some of my xanga entries will go in, too.  I’m not doing a typical memoir, instead it’ll be my story, but also my perspectives on life & situations, poems & art-work, pics of my tattoos, song lyrics, etc.  I want it to be creative & unique, but also to “explain” who I am, since I often feel misunderstood  :)    I want to explain the person behind the facade.  I’ll be adding more test results in some up-coming xanga entries.


    I was thinking a lot about my insecurities, today.  About how insecure I am with sex & romantic relationships.  How, no matter what I think logically, my father’s words are still with me & affect my decisions, behavoir, etc.  I can easily say that my father is an ass and he wasn’t right, but when something is drilled into you from a young age, and from a PARENT no less, you still carry it with you.  My father’s words & actions have changed who I am.  I am a very different person now than I was as a child.  Part of it is growing up, obviously.  But a lot of it has to do with all the abuse (from my dad, ex-hubby & Vinny).  Mothers have grabbed their kids & walked across the street to get away from me as I approach them on the side walk.  I would NEVER hurt the mother or her child, but I look like I would.  Short, jet-black hair, heavy leather biker jacket, combat boots, etc.  I can come across VERY harsh.  Now, I do have to say that part of the look is comfort.  I LOVE leather, I have several leather jackets.  My biker jacket is my heaviest & warmest, so I wear it the most, but I do wear my nicer jackets, too.  My boots are simply comfort.  These Harley boots are much more comfortable than any sneaker, to me.  My hair is short because it’s easy.  I do dirty, unglamarous work.  I can’t have nice hair at work, and I typically don’t have the time for it.  But it is also a protective facade.  I use it to protect myself from being raped again.  If I look like a guy, if I don’t come across as sexy or sexual, men should leave me alone.  It’s not the real me.  Yeah, I’m into the biker scene, but I also like to feel pretty & feminine & soft.  But, I’m afraid that showing that side of me makes me vulnerable & easy to attack/rape again.  Now, honestly, I have made HUGE strides in that, and I’ve gotten better & I do show my softer, more feminine side much more often now.  But, “Biker Lauren” does typically make more appearances throughout the week than “Lady Lauren.”  Partially comfort, partially protection, she is the side most people see.  I know I’ll never totally get rid of the hurt or scars my father caused, but I am doing better.  But those insecurities do carry through on the romantic front, too.  I am very insecure, sexually.  I am self-conscious & nervous (and that’s with men, so being with a woman makes me VERY self-conscious).  I’m always afraid I’m being judged (either about my body or “performance”).  I fear being seen (I don’t like having my partner look t or watch me) because I am so self-conscious, but also I was told that if I enjoyed myself, I must be a whoare.  So, if they don’t/can’t see me, they won’t know I’m enjoying it & they won’t judge me.  I also can’t do certain things (more having things done TO me than me doing for my partner) because I’ll either have a panic attack or just feel so guilty in the pleasure of it all.  Fucked up, huh?  Basically, it just boils down to the fact that I just don’t have any confidence.  I know that most of what I think/feel about sex is not true, but I’ve never been in a loving, warm, accepting sexual relationship.  I just need to be in the right relationship.  A nurturing relationship will do wonders for me, I know it.  I greatly look forward to the day when I am REALLY making love with a person, where it’s a safe environment, and it’s just about the connection between this other person & myself.  But, you do have to admit, it’s kind of ironic.  I come across as this harsh, strong, independent woman, but in all honesty, I just want to be held  :)   It’ll all come in time, I’m sure.  In the meanwhile, it’s time for dinner  :)   Good night, all!  Blessed be.

  • Hello again.  Yes, I was unproductive today :) .  I haven’t even read yet  :)   I did talk to that guy Andrew on-line for quite a while.  He’s met another girl from match.com a couple of times & they’re just letting thins flow naturally.  That made me feel so much better.  We talked & if nothing else we’ll be friends, but to know he’s hanging out with other girls takes pressure off of me (at least in my head it does)  :)


    I heard from Oceana.  She told me I’d do best by just letting the relationship with “Deer” flow & to trust my intuition as to the right time to talk to her.  She’s right, I need to just let things fall into place on their own.  Again, I have those insecurities that make me want to cling, but I cherish this woman too much to hurt her.  The last thing I’d EVER want to do is make her uncomfortable.  I’ll gladly do anything for her, including waiting  :)


    Anyhoo, here are some random test results for yours truely from Quizilla.  Some have been slighlty modified or edited  :)   I’m going to try to do the same for my e-mode results one of these days…  Anyway, enjoy reading  :)


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    Rain: You are the sound of rain. You have two important sides. There is your strong, powerful side and your calm, gentle side. Both are very important. Rain also reflects a bit of darkness in your personality. It isn’t bad, just shows that along with the good, you also can see bad, which can come in handy.


    Ghost or spirit: You are a lost soul. Very calm and sweet, you are often the one who asks: What if? With a clever mind, you want to explore the world on a different level. Without the answers, you aren’t ready to move on. You are most likely very creative and find yourself thinking things through on a different level.


    You, my friend are a true individual. You most likely hate trends and are creative. By seeing things differently, people either admire you or think you are a bit strange. An inspiration to us all, continue being you!


    You are naturally born with a gift, whether it be poetry, writing or song. You love beauty and creativity, and usually are highly intelligent. Others view you as mysterious and dreamy, yet also bold since you hold firm in your beliefs.


    You are guided by light. While all can be bad around you, you still stay calm and make things better. There aren’t a lot of people in the world like you.


    Your element is Water. You are a deep person and a good communicator. Incredibably loving and loyal when your trust is gained and you are fairly mature. Mysterious to the utmost water is in everything. One can be an Ocean or a river but nobody truly knows you.


    You’re a spiritual Dragon- You love nature and you love the animals and you love yourself and other, this is all good. You keep your body, mind and spirit healthy… keep up the good work and blessed be.


    You are an Omega. You live alone and depend on no one. You take care of yourself.


     

  • I woke up this morning to snow.  Yuck!  :)   I’ve decided to hold off on my errands till tomorrow after work.  I don’t mind driving in the snow, but today I just can’t bothered  :)   So, I’m gonna read, I’m currently doing my weekly facial, and just being unproductive  :)


    I’m not afraid to “come out” to my family.  I just want to be sure that my mom understands that my past relationships with men were not covers.  I know she knows what being bi-sexual means, I just want her to grasp the fact that I like everybody  :)   I’m probably underestimating her.


    Akhenaten has been VERY mushy & lovey today.  I don’t mind  :)   She’s been in my lap for about an hour now.  She keeps curling up & falling asleep in my lap & arms.  It’s adorable  :)   This morning she was running around like the energizer kitten  :)   She is so entertaining!


    I haven’t told “Deer” who she is, yet.  I’m kinda nervous to do so.  I don’t want to scare her off  :)   I don’t want to make her uncomfortable or feel pressured.  I feel like a ballon that’s about to burst: I’m dying inside to tell her, but I want to respect her, her privacy, etc.  I’ve left certain things out or hidden or changed certain details in order to protect her & her privacy.  She does read my xanga entries, and I don’t want her to feel like all eyes on her, here.  I even e-mailed Oceana about talking to “Deer.”  I wanted to know if she got a feeling about how/when to tell her, how she’d react, etc.  I know everything will happen the way it’s meant to.  But because someone else is involved, I want to make sure I do it right.  I don’t want to hurt, scare or offend “Deer.” 


    Well, I should go continue to be unproductive  :)   Take care, all.  Stay warm!  Blessed be.

  • Not much to report.  I drove to Northern Connecticut yesterday for my old college roommate’s belated baby shower.  I ended up being late because the drive took longer than I thought & Tracie (my roommate)’s mom who gave me the directions left out an important piece of information once I had gotten into Torrington.  Oh well.  SOMEHOW I found it  :)   I spent 3 hours there & then left.  I drove a total of 6 hours just to spend 3 hours with Tracie & her family.  Oh well.  It was still nice.  Trace looked good, the baby is cute, everyone is doing well.  So, that was good.  I went to bed early ’cause I was just exhausted.  I’m still tired today  :)


    Saw my mom & Dick today.  We had brunch with my high school theatre teacher & his wife (that’s a long, bizarre story in and of itself).  It was for my mom’s birthday which was this past Thursday.  It was nice.  It was cold in the city, but not too bad.  I was planning on coming out to my mom & Dick today (at least my mom), and that didn’t happen.  The brunch thing was smack dab in the middle of the day & it kind of threw off our schedule & I didn’t really see an opportunity to discuss something of that nature.  Problem is, I may not see them next Sunday, and I really don’t want to keep this in much longer, especially if my relationship with “Deer” continues to grow as it has.  And I don’t want to tell my mom over the phone, this needs to be done in person.  Hopefully an opportunity will arise soon.  I just want to get it over with.  I don’t like keeping things to myself.


    As for “Deer,” she continues to brighten my days.  She is a beautiful person inside & out.  *Smirking*  I continually day dream about her, a life with her, etc.  I have since the morning after Mike & I broke up  :)   I’m enjoying watching this grow & blossom.  I’m also just so comfortable with the idea of being with another “first-timer.”  I always said that if I was going to be with a woman, I’d prefer to be with another who was inexperienced.  I’d be so embarassed to be with a woman who knows what she’s doing, as I’m trying to find way.  To be with another “new comer” is nice because we can go at a pace that works for us.  We can learn together & there’s no pressure or comparisons or expectations.  I really like the idea of learning & exploring together.  By the way, “Deer” is not Tiffany.  Tiffany was the other female Oceana saw that wouldn’t work out with me.  I kinda got the feeling that Tiffany & I were not meant to be at the girls’ night last week, and the reading with Oceana just reinforced that.


    Speaking of Oceana, she & I are beginning a great friendship.  There was a big connection at my first reading with her, and at the reading the other day, she mentioned the idea of us talking & hanging out informally.  She sent me an e-mail yesterday morning that really touched me.  She is another beautiful soul that has entered my life.  I don’t think I have ever felt so blessed with the people in my life.  I have the sweetest, kindest, most wonderful, beautiful people in my life right now.  I am so happy.  I hope I can give these people back what they’ve given me.


    Yawn, well, I think it’s time I hit the hay.  Goodnight all.  Sleep well & have a blessed day! 

  • Wow.  All I can say is wow.  Tonight’s reading was AMAZING!  I love Oceana, she is such a love.  And she hit EVERYTHING without me saying a word  :)


    She mentioned Nyako & the other animals in my life.  She said they were thanking me.  That means a lot since I have not stopped beating myself up about Ny’s getting sick.  So, that was comforting.


    I told her I needed help/guidance with romance.  She INSTANTLY picked up on the fact that there were 3 people I was confused about, she also figured out that 2 were women.  And then she looked at me, and told me that this was the first time I was in/considering a relationship like this.  (Can we say, “Wow”?!)  She told me the one woman just wasn’t really in the picture.  I had a feeling that was the case, but I wasn’t sure.  So, that settled that for me.  She saw Stephen, but she also saw all the confusion around him & the fact that he hasn’t “stepped up to the plate” in terms of commitment (to at least some kind of solidity to the relationship).  She actually saw his father, and discussed their relationship (which I don’t really know anything about), and said that their relationship was a cause of why Stephen was the way he was.  She saw ”Deer” (she said this one was deer-like, so I’m calling her that for now) & said there was an amazing connectedness to us.  She knew that Deer & I had Wicca in common.  She also saw that this would be a first female-female relationship for her as well.  She saw a lot of firsts for her (I instantly knew what that was about), but she saw a good future for us & saw me moving to her/with her in the not too distant future.  She even told me that we would have a HOUSE & that it will be on the water, she said that I should be on the lookout for that when moving time comes.  She was even amazed at how sweet Deer is.  Oceana said, “Wow.  She is really very sweet.  She is a kind soul.”  VERY true.  Anyone who knows her will tell you that.  She told me that I need not worry about coming out to my family.  She said that they may be surprised at first, but they won’t be as judgemental as I fear they’d be.  So, that was good to hear.  Bottom line was she saw that Stephen & I would continue the intense, intellectually intimate relationship we have, but it probably (I’m using that term, because as we all know, things can change.  Even Oceana said that things change & move so quickly) will not blossom into anything more.  That’s fine.  Instead I should focus on developing a relationship with Deer.  She also saw my concern about not hurting others (Stephen).  She said not to worry, that I wouldn’t.  She said the right words will come to me at the time that they are needed.  So, that’ll be fine.  *Breathing a sigh of relief*


    She asked me if I was going back to school.  I said I was thinking about it.  She told me I should.  She said she saw me in surgery, she said I have a natural gift for it.  She asked me if I’ve already sutured.  I told her yes.  She said vet school was where I needed to go & that I would do well monetarily as a vet.  That was really cool.


    She asked me about my stomach.  She saw that I was having problems with it, and then she said, “What’s up with the yogurt?”  I couldn’t help but laugh.  I eat yogurt almost every day.  I told her how it was a joke at work.  She said that I should keep eating it, that it will help.  That was amazing to me, that she picked up on both.


    She told me my grandfather would be well, she didn’t see him deteriorating any time soon.  She saw the number 88, and she also heard “one year.”  She wasn’t sure what the one year was in reference to, though.


    I asked her about my health.  She saw that I’ve been concerned lately, but she didn’t see too much to worry about.  She said the new medication I was taking (in this case, vitamins for my eyes.  I’ve been concerned about the macular degeneration that runs in the fam, I’ve been afraid it’s starting to hit me) would help, she said it wasn’t a cure-all, but it would definetly help.  She also saw my anemia.  She thought it may originate with the liver or kidneys (and I’m thinking maybe I should get those checked), but she wasn’t overly concerned.


    She saw that I was worried about Akh.  She knew there was pain involved.  It was funny she brought that up, since I found out today that Akh should have surgery ASAP.  I’m bringing her in on Wed for pre-sx (sx is vet terminology for surgery) bloods.  Hopefully Brendan or Dr. Bitetto can do this cheap.  There’s a possibility of Brendan coming to our hosp & doing it for me there & maybe for free (or close to).  But I found it interesting that came up in the reading too.


    She saw me going on a trip in the spring to visit someone.  I told her I was thinking of it.  Then she asked why there was so much confusion surrounding this person.  I told her it was Deer.  Then it made sense to her.


    She saw Colin & Bryan in my life ( Lauren’s & Tracie’s babies).  She told me how I was like a godmother to Colin & that I would play an important role in his life, that I would be a guide for him, and that we would be close.  That was pretty cool.


    She discussed my job.  She said it was good place for me, but I wouldn’t be there forever.  She said the people were very caring, but efficient & busy (VERY true).  She said I’ve impressed them, which was nice to hear.  She also mentioned a co-worker with control issues (Doreen).  She said that I’ve been handling the situation well, and that it isn’t just me (true).  She told me there was also some jealousy, and part of that has to do with age.  Doreen is almost 40 & it took her about 5 times to pass the licensing exam.  I’m 24 & passed first try.  Plus, I came & I can do a lot, I do it differently from her, though & that’s where the issues come in.  I thought it was great that she (Oceana) could see that. 


    At one point, she looked at me and said, “You’ve really come a long way.”  She pointed out the fact that I was an extremely sensitive child & how I’ve grown (as a person), since I now let things just roll off my back.  She also saw that I’ve been through the fire more than once & really commended me.  She said I should be more proud of myself & how far I’ve come.  She also told me I was in a good place spiritually, and that I should keep doing what I’m doing (one of things I just recently began to do, is follow the “Wheel of The Year” or following nature’s cycles as my calendar: solstices, equinoxes, moon phases, etc.  SHE pointed that out to me!).


    She saw a lot of animal & angelic spirit guides around me.  She also saw Michael, the archangel.  I thought that was interesting.  She told me I should call on him when I needed truth or clarity/answers.  She also said I had a gift for Reiki-type work that I was unaware of & that I should really tap into that.  So, I’m going to start reasearching that.  I thought that was great.    It was a really positive reading, and I was just amazed at how many things she just hit right off the bat.  It was great, it really was.  We were talking about the possibility of us knowing each other in past lives in Scotland.  She said she would meditate on that.  I wouldn’t be surprised.  This is only my second time meeting her, and I love her.  She is so sweet, and I’m so comfortable around her.  We definetly have a good friendship starting.  Yea!


    I am so excited & comfortable & reassured.  I’m just happy.  It all made sense.  It all finally came together.  My head feels so much clearer.  I’m relieved.  I have a lot to look forward to.  I am so much more at ease now.  I am truely content right now.  Well, I do need to go wrap the stuff for the shower tomorrow.  Good night, all.  Blessed be! 

  • The moon was GORGEOUS tonight.  When I got on the expressway to go home from work, she was this bright, beautiful yellow.  I said “Wow” outloud a couple of times.  She was breathtaking.  She was like a queen, sitting on her throne.  The clouds danced around her, moving & shifting & changing shape in soft, beautiful, graceful ways.  At one point, one cloud was draped over her like a beautiful length of chiffon.  I sang to her my entire ride home, hopefully it was enough of an homage  :)   Just coming back from the store now, she was a bright, pure white.  She is so regal & feminine & amazing tonight.


    I finally heard from Stephen.  Well, he e-mailed me.  At least it was something  :)   I don’t think I’ll see him before he goes to Mexico next week.  Sigh.  Oh well.  I do think he & I need to talk, to really find out where the other is (in terms of thinking about “us”).  I’ll wait till he gets back, though.  He’s been so nervous about this trip, and I do not want to overwhelm him.  This trip will be good for him.  He needs & deserves it.  I hope he has a great time.  I’m really happy for him.


    Most importantly, send out a lot of love, support & positive energy to Hazenly & BuddhaMoon.  H needs some love & hugs, BuddhaMoon has some health issues.  I’m going to cast a spell for both of you tonight.  Please know you have a lot of love & support right here.  Take care, blessed be.  I love you both, and I’m always here for you.

  • God am I sore today.  My muscles seem to be getting weaker and my arthritis worse & spread to new parts every day.  Something is terribly wrong.  I need to get a neurologist ASAP.  I need to know what’s going on with my body.  It just doesn’t make sense.  Being painful & focusing on this has me thinking quite a bit today.  About my mortality, the life I’ve led, and the legacy of my life.


    Personally, I believe we all leave legacies with the love & energy we share & give & put out.  Our lives are really based our experiences, perceptions, and most importantly our friends & family.  To me, family is not defined by blood, but by love.  I consider everyone in my life to be a part of my family, in one way or another.  My life is a reflection of those people & the love & support they’ve given me.  My life’s goal has been to reciprocate what has been given to me.  I try, I know I’m not perfect.  Far from it.  But I try.  Every day, I try my hardest to give & love & protect the way I have been in the past.  Words can never tell people how much they mean to you.  Gestures help, but emotions are so much stronger than any word or flower or even money.  Whether I die now or 100 years from now, I don’t want people to focus on me.  I am the result of my experiences & people.  I want people to see that I would have been nothing without them.  Each person, animal, spirit I have encountered has been my foundation, what has gotten me this far.  One cannot say “I’ve done this” or “I got that” without help.  It’s true.  Although I got myself through my divorce, there is no way that would have been possible without the kidness that was extended to me as I hid from ex husband, or the unconditional love my family showed me by welcoming me home & helping me to take care of the legal proceedings.  Without all those people, I would have not been able to stay safe, come home or get legally divorced.  And that is just one example from the many events of my life.   People come & go in our lives, but they all impact us in one way or another.  Even though we may lose touch, the love remains.  The power of your actions remain.  You are never forgotten.  To tell all of you I love you is a start, but it’s not enough.  It’s never enough.  Just know that I thank Goddess, God, the Moon & Stars, the Earth every day for each of you.  You are all wonderful beautiful souls.  I cannot thank you enough for all that you’ve done or all that you are.  I would not be where I am today without each of you.  Thank you. 

  • Well, to start off, as you all can see, this site is currently a work in progress  :)   LOL…Sorry for all the wild, different changes.  La Donna & I are slowly working on this.  WEll, she is, really.  She knows what she’s doing & I’m just being a brat & telling her what I want  :)   So, thank you very much, La Donna!  You’re a sweetheart, I appreciate all your hard work.  Hopefully everything will be all set up soon.


    So, we had a nice dinner with my fam.  Although I love them dearly, I am finding it harder to be in public with them….Well, Bob, my mom’s brother.  He claims to be veegan (but he eats crab cakes & foods with egg & milk in them, but whatever).  He also had to bring his own water to the restaurant, because he will now only drink triple-filtered water.  For god’s sake!  It’s emarassing to be with such a pain in the ass.  He actually made the waiter take away his glass of water after the waiter filled his glass with the restaurant’s water.  I’m normally so embarassed at restaurants because of my limited eating, but that’s all health.  This was bad  :)   Oh well.  He means well.  I think   :)


    I haven’t heard from Stephen.  *Clawing at my desk*  When will I hear from him?!  Damn, this is killing me  :)   But I know I can’t rush him.  I wish I could reassure him.  He gave me a CD, and there’s one song that says “All I ever wanted was to be with you…./You’ve got to know I’d never do you wrong…”  I would LOVE to sing that to him, or at least tell him.  Plus, I found some great dolphin pics for the next tattoo, but again, I don’t want to bother him.  Don’t want to be a pain in his ass.  Sigh….  This whole “letting go” thing goes against my nature  :)   I do believe he will be the death of me  :)   In the meanwhile, just to add more confusion to my plate, I’ve been e-mailing Andrew, the guy who saw my old profile on e-mode.  He seems REALLY cool.  We think alike in terms of religion, life goals, our life perspectives, etc.  Plus he’s local & only a year older than me.  He’s kinda cute too.  DAMN IT!!!!!!!!!  LOL…This is so weird for me.  I’ve never had anything like this happen to me before.  I do hope I can get some answers on Friday.


    I would like to introduce everyone to Tat2Jay.  I stumbled across his site the other day.  He is a soldier in Iraq, with a lovely wife & children back here in the states.  I thanked him for what he is doing for us.  I told him how I would love to enlist, but I would be rejected due to the neuromuscular disease.  So, I have a lot of respect & sympathy for those people who ARE out there.  He is a wonderful guy & his site is great.  Send lots of love & positive energy to him & his family.


    I think that pretty much wraps things up for today.  I’m gonna go cuddle with Akhenaten.  Take care all, good night.  Blessed be!

  • Wow, I just spent like $400 today!  Half was for me, the other half went to a baby gift for my college roommate & b-day prsents for my mom.  I did buy about $200 worth of underwear for myself, though, at Victoria’s Secret.  It was pretty crazy there, they were having their semi-annual sale.  It was fun in a way, ’cause it’s the total opposite of what I’d normally do.  It was girlie & crowded, 2 things I normally DON’T do  :)   But I needed the stuff, plus I got pretty, sexy underwear.  Most of my bras are sports bra & my panties are something my grandmother would be ashamed to wear!  :)   LOL.  I want to feel pretty & sexy when I’m not at work.  Now I can.  Now, if I know I’m gonna see Stephen (or anybody else for that matter), I can have something nice on, on top & underneath  :)  


    As for the men & women in my life, You’re right, Herbwytche.  I know you are.  Part of being alone the past 2 years was for me to get to that place in my life.  I’m better now.  A million times better.  I’ve grown, learned to love & accept myself, my self-esteem is at a high point it’s never been at before, and I’ve even come to embrace sex & sexuality as a normal part of a healthy life.  I haven’t had any in the past 2 years, and I do want to expand that part of my life, but not just with anyone.  Honestly, the only weak point in my life is my insecurity with other people.  I’m the same way with my friends.  I don’t know how to break myself of this.  I tend to feel that if I don’t hear from people, if I don’t keep in CONSTANT contact with them, that they don’t love me.  I grew up hearing I’m replaceable, unimportant, and unloveable.  I cling to these people to reassure me that it’s not true.  I know life is busy & people can’t always talk, yet, emotionally, that kills me.  How do I realize emotionally, that not talking every day is ok?  It’s funny because I was thinking about this today when I was stuck in traffic.  I thought about how the energy you put out comes back to you.  How immortality comes with the energy you put out.  If I love & give to others, if I do for others, I’m putting that good, gentle, giving energy out to the world & it will continue to go around & will even touch people outside of my small circle.  I truely believe that the music & energy I put out touches so many, more than I could ever concieve.  And yes, it will come back to me.  It has.  At this moment, I am surrounded by so much love & warmth from my friends.  I have new, wonderful people who have become a great addition to the quilt of love my “older” friends have created & blanketed me with.  I am so greatful to have all these wonderful, beautiful souls in my life.  I am truely blessed.


    Well, I should go.  I have a lot of wrapping, packing & trying on to do  :)   Thank you, all.  I love each of you.  Take care, blessed be & have a wonderful night!